Has the virtual recognition surpassed our basic needs of the past?
Numerous investigations consider that millennials will spend approximately seven years on their telephones (Study of Tendencies of Consumers of Smartphone and IoT, 2017). For many of us, most of that time is spent in the social networks.
In the depth of the social networks it is intrincately the notion of external validation and recognition. Influencers of Instagram, Facebook and similars has made that are impossible to use these platforms without paying attention to the validation and the recognition that can provide.
This addiction can be explained through concept of Blows or Strokes in English by Eric Berne. As psychiatrist and creator of transactional Analysis, Bern thought that the process in which the babies wish the physical contact (also known as apoplexy) can also be applied to the adults. For the adults, nevertheless, these cerebrovascular accidents do not have to be physical; instead of the physical stimulation, the adults replace it by some other type of symbolic, verbal, gesticulativo or even digital recognition, or.
These blows can be positive (a hug, a smile or fulfilling), or negatives (a push, gather the frown or insult), but in the desperation than Bern it has denominated hunger of recognition, any blow, positive or negative, is better than no. Speaking psychologically, it seems that to feel insulted or downcast it is better than to feel invisible, without rejected importance or.
In this he was digital, it seems that many of us we have replaced the necessity of physical contact or recognition with the virtual recognition that we received with as much distant friendly frequency, or even of strangers, in line.
But, the click of the button can I likes to be as affirmative as a genuine smile of a stranger? We are losing a part of we ourself and our inherent capacity to be social creatures when replacing the physical interactions by these intangible attacks?
In the book Why the social networks are ruining your life, Katherine Ormerod reveals some disquieting affirmations on the social networks and the mental health:
- One hour to the day in the social networks only reduces the probability that an adolescent is happy in around the 14 percent.
- The social mass media of excessive use of the adolescents with five hours or more of daily participation were 70 percent more prone to have thoughts or suicidal actions¦
- Throughout the life of the social networks in Europe, there has been an increase of autoenvenenamiento on the part of the children of 50%, an increase in the hospitalizations by self-inflicted wound injuries between the children in a 68% and an increase of 400% in the number of children who receive treatment in the hospital by you cut themselves.
It seems that a clear and strong correlation between the social networks and the problems related to the mental health exists, in particular for the adolescents.
Then, aside from our ingenuous attempts to replace the human connection with the digital recognition, what is so detrimental in the social networks?
Often we like to use the argument that moving through the social networks to see real people is not worse, and if he is something more informative, than what the rest does of the society when consuming fictitious lives in a TV show, a film or when reading a book.
But there is a fundamental difference, that often it is ignored: the people not always are conscious the fact that what is seeing in the social networks he is not real nor attainable.
What one has become the problem then is that the people are creating these fictitious and little realistic lives in the social networks and they are representing them as reality. Whereas the people know the books that are reading and the programs that are seeing are pure fiction, many people are let deceive by the reality than they see in the social networks.
This it is particularly the case of the young children and squeamish, for those who the artificial and altered material that is seen in the social networks becomes the measurement of the normal thing and of the reality. They begin to hope that by themselves, and when, inevitably, they cannot reach that measurement of false perfection, they begin to question itself and to even become angry to themselves, undergoing a smaller happiness and general self-esteem.
As a Dementor of the world of Harry Potter, the social means own the power to drain La Paz, the happiness and the hope of which they enter his kingdom.
Nevertheless, the happiness that is filtering is so slow and constant that we almost did not notice it. Most remarkable it is the immediate allowance that we received from her; the boredom that is alleviated momentarily; the security that feel artificially and the recognition that occurs of insincere and ineffective way.
This does not mean that the social networks must be abolished, has, by all means, many good things on the matter. But it is worth the pain to reconsider what is what we looked for in the social networks and how conscious we are of the power that can exert negatively on our always susceptible minds.